To the girl who has never had a boyfriend.

Written in 2022, but shared today. :)

First off, stop comparing yourself to anyone. Get off Instagram if you have to, stop scrolling and remember that her story is not your story. You are seen. You are loved. And God knows every single desire and detail of your life. I feel so passionate about this topic right now because I have had so many conversations with my girlfriends and girls in passing believing so many lies about themselves and leaning into disappointment. Sister do not lean into the disappointment. I know it’s so lonely. I know telling you to not lean into the disappointment isn’t any less sad or hard. But let me remind you are are not alone. In any of it. In the feelings of wanting something so badly and it not happening yet. I’m right there with you. I want a Godly man who loves Jesus so badly. I’m 27, single and I’ve never had a boyfriend. That’s something I’ve never posted about or told the whole internet. It’s my story though and I’m trying to own it. I’m trying to be grateful for the protection God has put in front of my heart. I’m grateful for the friends the Lord has placed in my life. For the relationships I’ve been able to foster. They bring me so much life. I’m grateful for the adventures I’ve been on. 

But some days it still feels really hard. And that’s okay. I know that my lack of not having a plus one at weddings does not define me. It does not make me any less amazing or desirable to get to know. I am not less than just because I have not reached that part of my story….honestly not even sure what that means. Why were we taught at a young age we need to reach a certain relationship status to be happy?! Go on the sister trip, say yes to the ski trip with your friends, spend the whole afternoon at your favorite coffee shop just because you can. Live your life. Fully and unapolegitacally. No one is waiting on you to live theirs. These are the days. These are the moments you will not get back. Start a new hobby, say yes to volunteering. Be the reason someone smiles today. This is your one moment to be in this exact season.

Live it well and live if fearfully loved. We do not get another life to live like this.

I say all this to say Jesus is worthy of it all. He is worthy of placing your trust in his hands and telling him every single secret on your heart. He already knows them, but he wants to hear them. He wants you to know him so deeply that you know his character. You know his love for you far out-weights the gifts you may or may not have in this season. I urge you to surrender it all. To lay every dream and desire at his feet. I pray you’ll have a heart that wants to lean in. Multiple times a day I lay things at the feet of Jesus. Because I try and pick them up and they’re too heavy for me to carry. The things I want to control steal my joy. And the only place I want my joy is in the Lord. 

I love you and I’m sending you a big hug. Sit in your coziest chair, make a cup of coffee and remind yourself of the truth. Remind your heart that the king of kings loves you more than life. The one who gave his life for you so that you would know him. 

XOXO

LIZA